Intermediary Messaging System For Online Dating And Social Networking Websites

ABSTRACT

A method for allowing users on social networking websites, online dating websites, business networking websites, or other profile-based websites to request critiques for their messages before they are sent to their intended recipients. In its main embodiment, a user A writes a message to a second user B and requests that the message reviewed by someone before being delivered to user B. The website server then locates a third user C, who is very similar to user B and who is willing to read and review the message. If C approves of the message, it is sent to user B—otherwise it is returned to user A with feedback. Other embodiments include the possibility for user C to be rewarded for doing the reviewing work, as well as options for users A, B and C to all be anonymized. Selection of user C can also be restricted to make sure that C and B are very far from each other geographically, or in unrelated industries.

BACKGROUND Prior Art

The following is a tabulation of some prior art that presently appearsrelevant to this application:

U.S. Patents and Applications

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Non-Patent Literature

Analysis of user keyword similarity in online socialnetworks—Bhattacharyya et al., Jun. 3, 2010

Over the past few years, the Internet has seen a rise in the number ofwebsites available. One type of such websites are online dating andsocial networking websites. These websites are designed to allow humanusers to post information about themselves, in what is called a profile.The profile typically contains one or more traits that the user has.Such traits include but are not limited to: age, gender, pictures of theuser, and possibly profession, work experience and physical address. Weinterchangeably refer to those user traits hereafter as characteristicsor properties. Those profiles can serve a variety of purposes: in onlinedating, the profiles give other users of the website a general idea ofwhat the user looks like and allows those other people to decide whetherthey think the user would be a good romantic match for them. In socialnetworking, the profile is put up to allow friends and family to see it,and let them keep in touch with the user through e-mail, messaging, orother means. In business online networks, the profile can serve as aresume to allow other professionals, recruiters or companies to evaluatethe user and potentially consider him as a candidate for a job opening.

In nearly all of the situations described above, the human user createsa page that he believes will best portray him in the online communitythat he joined, and allow him to achieve certain goals: for example,finding a romantic partner in online dating, getting a job offer inbusiness networks, and so on. There are several other situations wherewebsites are advertising users' profiles, and several websites where theusers are the main product of the website. With the rise of socialnetworking, these websites are becoming more and more dominant.

One issue that a lot of users seem to suffer from is crafting welltargeted and interesting messages when trying to communicate withanother user of the website who they have not or rarely interacted with.This is particularly prevalent in online dating and in businessnetworking, where a lack of experience can result in the user sendingsubpar messages to their target.

In many of these cases, a user trying to message a second user, canbenefit from having a third user, who is similar to the second user,review the message before it is sent.

We use the words critique, feedback and reviews interchangeablythroughout the text to mean the act of one user C looking at a seconduser A's message, and C giving user A information about how C believesthat A can improve his message to better help him reach his targetaudience. A critique can be numeric such as a grading system associatedwith a question, textual or both. For example, a piece of critiqueinformation on a business site that user C could give about user A'smessage, could be: “Your message is good but a little unoriginal—trytalking more about why you think you're a good fit for this job”.

We will also be referring to social networking website below but themethod applies to all kinds of websites where it is possible for a userto message another user from within the website.

We use the word website to denote the set of all links contained withinthe same internet web domain. For example foo.com is a websiteassociated with the URL http://foo.com/user1 or with URLhttp://mail.foo.com/otherlink/somethingelse.

SUMMARY

This summary is meant to introduce a few concepts in a simplified formthat are further described below in the Detailed Description. It is notintended to identify key features or essential features of the claimedsubject matter, nor is it intended to be used as an aid in determiningthe scope of the claimed subject matter.

The premise of this application is that for social networking websites,online dating sites, business networking websites, it would be useful ifthere was a simple way to get a message from user A to user B reviewedby a user C who is similar to user B, before it was delivered to userB's inbox.

One embodiment for solving this problem follows: we propose a method bywhich a user can request feedback about his message before it isdelivered to its target recipient, by another user who is similar to thetarget recipient.

We describe several other embodiments in the detailed description andclaims.

ADVANTAGES

The advantages of such a system is that it allows users to avoid commonpitfalls when sending message to people that they are not used sendingto, while getting more experienced individuals to review them.

DRAWINGS

FIG. 1 is a flow diagram that illustrates what typically happens on asocial networking website when a user wants to message another user.

FIG. 2 shows a first proposed embodiment, where a third similar user isintroduced to help review the message.

FIG. 3 shows a second proposed embodiment, where the third user isrewarded for his help in writing the message.

FIG. 4 describes a basic social networking architecture as they arecurrently available on the market.

FIG. 5A shows part of the contents of one of the terminals used in FIG.4.

FIG. 5B shows part of the contents of one of the servers used in FIG. 4.

DETAILED DESCRIPTION First Embodiment

FIG. 1 shows the typical flow followed by a user when sending a messagewithin a website.

In the first step 101, user A logs into the website under considerationW. This can be a social networking website, an online dating website, abusiness networking website, or any other website where users cancommunicate with other users from within the website.

User A then visits User B′s profile as shown in 102. This is a task thatis common in today's websites.

User A then writes and sends a message M to user B using the website W'sinterface as shown in 103. The message is stored in W's server databaseor it can be stored in an external database, and user B may be at thistime notified that a message has arrived in his inbox. In some websites,it is also possible for user B not to be notified of the arrival of amessage. Either way the message M is now delivered into user B's inboxas in 104.

User B then logs into his inbox using the website and sees a message iswaiting for him, as shown in 105. He may then choose to open and readthat message.

This flow is the well-known flow used by many websites that arecurrently in existence. They allow direct messaging from one user toanother without any intermediate review.

FIG. 2 shows the first proposed embodiment of our method.

As before, the user A first logs into the website W as shown in 201,then navigates to user B's profile as shown in 202. At that point, userA decides to send a message to user B.

After writing and entering the message, user A may be prompted whetherhe would like someone to review said message before it is actuallydelivered to user B, as shown in 203. If the user declines, then themessage is immediately delivered to user B's inbox as was done inFIG. 1. If the user accepts and requests a review, the flow goes to 204.

In 204, the server has available to it: who the sending user is (userA), who the receiving user is (user B), and what the message is (messageM). By looking through its database, the server attempts to locate auser C who is similar to user B. In the main embodiment, any such user Cwill do but in another embodiment, only users meeting certain criteriaand who have not opted out of reviewing messages can be considered. Bysimilar, we mean: within the same age range, or in the same industry, orsame gender, or with similar descriptions about themselves. By similardescription we refer to any of the techniques that are currentlyavailable for comparing the similarity between two documents. Asimilarity score is computed based on the above factors—the means ofcalculating said similarity scores are well documented in theliterature. We've referenced one such published paper that's used tocompute user similarity by Bhattacharyya in the non-patent literaturesection above, but the techniques are explained in other books andpapers that have been published.

Once a user C who's similar to user B has been located, the server Smodifies the message M to make it clear that this message is intendedfor someone else (user B) and that it is being sent to user C in orderto get reviews, as shown in 205. There are several ways to modify themessage but one simple option could be to add the following header:“User A would like your feedback on this message that he is sending touser B”, and then additionally include a link to user A's profile, userB's profile and the message itself. There are many other variants andsentences that can be used to achieve this. It is then delivered to userC's inbox instead of user B's inbox as shown in 206. At this point, userC is notified by electronic mail or messaging that a message is pendinghis review. In another embodiment, user C would not be notified.

At a later point in time, user C logs into the website and views therequest to review a message, as shown in 207. That review requestincludes user A's profile, user B's profile as well as the messagecontent. In some embodiments, user A and user B's profiles have bothbeen stripped of any identifying information such as name, pictures,addresses, or user IDs. In other embodiments, only user B's profile hasbeen anonymized, and in other embodiments none of the users have beenanonymized.

User C may then choose to read the message and review it (208), or hemay ignore it entirely. If user C does choose to review it, then he willrate the quality of the message on a score scale, and optionally giveadditional text feedback about how to improve the message. The scorescale can be similar to a star-rating system (i.e. one to five stars),or a simple yes/no grade, as well as any of the equivalent well-knownways to grade scores. The feedback that user C gives is intended toattempt to improve the quality of message M, and since user C isselected so that he is similar to user B, he may have more insight as tohow to improve said message.

At this point, user C knows whether he finds the message acceptable(209) and whether he subjectively believes that user B will like themessage. If he believes that user B will like message (210), then bymarking it as acceptable or scoring it highly, the server understandsthat this is a message that can now be forwarded to user B with nofurther modifications. In another embodiment, user A may request thatthe message not be forwarded to user B even if user C found itacceptable, in which case the flow would continue to step 211.

If user C did not like the message sent by user A, as is the case in211, the server will send back a notification to user A along with thefeedback given by user C, and will not forward message M to user B.

To summarize the above flow, user C acts as a gatekeeper for user B'sinbox and user A's reputation by ensuring that only messages that hebelieves are of high quality make it through from user A to user B.

In the context of professional business networking for example, let'ssay user A has recently graduated college and has only two years of workexperience. User A wants to contact the CEO of a company and crafts hisown message. He can then request that somebody in a similar position tothat CEO review his message before it is sent, to improve his chances ofgetting said CEO's attention.

In the context of online dating for example, let's say user A is tryingto find a romantic partner on website W. User A has messaged a few otherusers, but has received little to no interest. User A can then requesthis message to be reviewed by another user C before it reaches hisintended recipient user B, so that user C can notify him of anythingblatantly wrong with his message. The server would then be responsiblefor automatically finding a user which is suitable to give suchfeedback, in this case user C.

FIG. 4 shows a bit more information pertaining to the hardware involved.Such hardware is currently widespread and well understood and we arebringing it up for the sake of completeness. The method above is meantto run on a computing device such as a computer, server, phone, terminalor other devices. Users such as 405 and 406, through the use of theircomputing devices or terminals 403 and 404 respectively use the networkor internet 401 to connect to one or more servers 402. 401 here could bethe currently in-use internet, or a local area network, or a plaintelephone system, or a wide area network. For a terminal to connect tothe network they can use wired or wireless mediums which may beprovisioned with routers and firewalls, but not limited to the above.

A scenario with this architecture would be that user 405 through his useof computing device 403, connects to the server 402 and interfaces withhis device to send a message M to user 406. The device in turn relaysinformation over the network 401 and such information is stored on thedatabase of the server. The server then looks through the database forusers similar to 406. Let's assume in this case that user 407 was theuser who was very similar to 406 and who was found in the database. Theserver notifies the computing devices of 407, typically through e-mailor instant messaging. 407, through the use of his computing device willthen be able to read the profile of user 405, the profile of user 406,as well as the message M, and enter feedback about said message into histerminal. Once 407 is done writing his feedback, he would submit itelectronically through the use of the terminal, and that feedback wouldbe sent over the internet back to server 402 and stored into thedatabase. At that point, user 405 would be notified by said server thata review for his message is available, and would be able to view saidreview using his terminal. If said review was positive in nature, themessage M would also be forwarded to user 406 as it was originallyintended to do—otherwise, the message would not be forwarded.

FIG. 5A is a diagram showing one embodiment of the terminal used byusers. In this embodiment, the terminal 500 comprises a display system501 as well as an interface 502 that allows its users to interact withit.

FIG. 5B is a diagram showing one embodiment of the server to which theterminals are connecting. The server 510 contains one or more processingunits 511, as well as memory 512, which may be made up of one or moredatabases 513.

The above described the preferred embodiment, but there are severalalternate embodiments which are described hereafter.

Alternative Embodiments

We believe there are several ways to implement the overall systemdescribed above. The common factors are that a user on website W wants asimplified way to get his message reviewed by someone before it arrivesat his intended recipient.

One such embodiment is described in FIG. 3. This embodiment is similarto the one in FIG. 2 except the last few steps.

In particular, if user C does like the message as shown in 309, then themessage will be delivered to the original intended recipient user B (asin 311), otherwise if user C does not like the message, the feedbackgiven by user C will be sent back to user A (310). The next step iswhere the difference is—at this point, user C may be compensated for hisefforts. To explain further, user C may be rewarded for submitting hisreview about user A's message, or he can be rewarded if user A deemsuser C's review to be above a certain quality or helpfulness threshold.For example, in one embodiment, a user whose message was reviewed canhave the option of selecting whether the review was useful, or to gradeit on a scale from one to five, and those would serve as thresholds.Such rewards may be purely virtual, such as points on the website, orthey may be monetary. For example of a virtual reward, people who havedone the highest number of useful message reviews may get a higherranking in web searches or higher profile placements within the website,or may even redeem the points to get gifts or free website subscriptionmonths. By useful reviews here we mean a review that was submitted touser A that user A later accepted as being useful through the website.The review reward could be monetary with user A offering money towebsite S and website S distributing this money to message reviewerswhile potentially keeping a commission.

In another embodiment, the server may only select intermediary users (weuse intermediary users here to describe a user who is not the intendedrecipient of the message but who reads it and has the option to reviewit before said message is sent to its actual intended recipient) who aresimilar to the target user but also unlikely to actually know the targetuser. For example, if user A is e-mailing the CEO of a company in theUS, a possible intermediate user might be the CEO of an unrelatedcompany in Canada.

In yet another embodiment, a user can require anyone who messages him tohave his message undergo a review—for example, highly influentialindividuals on business networks, or highly desirable individuals ononline dating websites might prefer not to waste their time dealing withsubpar messages and would prefer to have someone else review theirmessages first.

In another embodiment, the user may ask for his intermediary reviewer tobe geographically distant from his intended user, and then the serverwould make sure that said intermediary is at least a specified number ofmiles away.

CONCLUSIONS, RAMIFICATIONS AND SCOPE

Thus the reader will see that at least one embodiment of the messagereview system described above will allow users to easily get valuablefeedback about their messages from people who are well suited to givesuch feedback, before said messages are allowed to reach their intendedrecipients.

While the above description contains many specificities, these shouldnot be construed as limitations on the scope but rather as anexemplification of one or several embodiments thereof. Many othervariations are possible. For example, it may be possible for the reviewrequests to be sent on a separate website—i.e. for a messages M sentwithin a website W, website R can be used to request reviews of M.

Accordingly, the scope should be determined not by the embodimentsillustrated, but by the appended claims and their legal equivalents.

What is claimed is:
 1. A computer-implemented method comprising:receiving a plurality of user profiles, each user profile comprisingcharacteristics of a respective user; receiving a request from a firstuser to send a message to a second user; notifying a plurality ofdifferent users about said request; exposing information about saidfirst user's profile, said second user's profile, and said message tosaid different users; receiving at least one review from said differentusers about first user's message; notifying and providing said firstuser with said at least one review.
 2. The method of claim 1, whereinthe notifying steps are done through the use of electronic mail.
 3. Themethod of claim 1, wherein said plurality of notified different usersare geographically distant from said first user's location.
 4. Themethod of claim 1, further comprising: rewarding said plurality ofdifferent users based on review quality.
 5. The method of claim 1,further comprising: anonymizing said first user by hiding said firstuser's personal profile information from said different users.
 6. Themethod of claim 1, further comprising: anonymizing said plurality ofdifferent users by hiding said different users' personal informationfrom said first user.
 7. The method of claim 1, further comprising:allowing said plurality of different users to permanently opt out ofproviding reviews.
 8. A computer-implemented method comprising:receiving a request from a first user to send a message to a seconduser; receiving a request to do a message review, said request beingassociated with a third user; revealing said first user's profileinformation to said third user; revealing said second user's profileinformation to said third user; revealing said message to said thirduser; receiving a critique of said first user's message, by said thirduser; displaying said critique to said first user.
 9. The method ofclaim 8, wherein the step of revealing is done only if said third userand said second user are geographically distant.
 10. The method of claim8, further comprising: prompting said first user to grade said critique;rewarding said third user if said grade is above a threshold.
 11. Themethod of claim 8, further comprising anonymizing said first user'sprofile information before revealing it to said second user, by removingsaid first user's personal information.
 12. The method of claim 8,wherein selecting a third user comprises finding a user that is similarto the second user.
 13. A non-transitory computer-readable mediumcomprising instructions that, when executed by as processor with memory,are configured to at least: receive a request to send a message from afirst user to a second user; store said request in said memory, select aplurality of users from said memory, notify said plurality of usersabout said request, display said first user's profile, second user'sprofile, and said message to said plurality of users, receive aplurality of user critiques about said message from said plurality ofusers, and provide said first user with said plurality of usercritiques.
 14. The medium of claim 13, where the instructions arefurther configured to: anonymize said first user's profile by removingpersonal information.
 15. The medium of claim 13, where the instructionsare further configured to: anonymize said plurality of user critiques.16. The medium of claim 13, where the instructions are furtherconfigured to: verify said plurality of users is geographically distantfrom said second user and from said first user.
 17. The medium of claim13, where the instructions are further configured to: provide a rewardsaid plurality of users.
 18. The medium of claim 13, wherein notifyingthe plurality of users gets done by electronic mail.